Beat cream cheese in large bowl with electric mixer until creamy. Gradually beat in milk. Add both dry pudding mixes and mix well. Stir in 2 cups whipped topping. Line bottom and sides of a 2 1/2 quart bowl or trifle dish with half the vanilla wafers. Pour 1/2 of coffee over wafers. Layer 1/2 pudding mixture on top of wafers and top with 1/2 of grated chocolate. Repeat layers starting with vanilla wafers, drizzle with coffee, etc. Top with remaining whipped topping, a teaspoon grated chocolate, and fresh berries, if desired. Refrigerate at least 2 hours before serving. Leftovers should be stored in refrigerator.